Feeling alone in your relationship?
It’s disheartening when you turn to your life partner and realize that the two of you have drifted so far away from each other. You wonder if it’s even possible for the relationship to feel like it did in the beginning, when the two of you felt seen by the other, safe in each others arms, and confident in your emotional commitment.
As the pursuer, you may be feeling-
Frustrated with your partner’s perceived inability to communicate
Alone in the relationship. It’s like your partner has given up or lost interest in you
Defeated, you continue to communicate what you need with your partner but see nothing come from it
As the withdrawer, you may be feeling-
Hopeless because it seems like you are consistently being criticized
Faulty because you can’t understand what your partner actually wants from you
Guilty and thinking that maybe your partner is better off without you
During our work together, we will-
Track the negative cycle the two of you get caught in - identify the coping strategies the two of you use that perpetuate the emotional distancing
Understand what is going on inside of you and develop the language to share the internal experience in a way that your partner can listen and understand
Learn to correctly identify each other’s emotional cues and triggers
Create new bonding experiences that will replace old coping strategies giving you control over the negative cycle
